Stop comparing your child with Damor-ka Beta or Pinky-ki Ladki

PC  THOMAS

With the CBSE Class-12 and Class-10 results have been declared and students have begun steering up for a decisive phase of their lives. For Class-10 students, the results decide as to which stream they choose further and it is one of the significant milestones for their life. For Class-12 students, it is all about getting into the right institution and face competition. And those who fail to perform in exams, they have to take further chances to improve and recover.

Nowadays, an increasing sense of competition has attacked the mind of children, parents the relationships and society at large. Some parents think that the marks obtained are of the barometer to judge their children’s life and future. At the same time, children’s natural ability, skills and innovation usually take a backseat.  

Once the results are out, parents generally start comparing their children’s marks with those of others. They say to their child –“Look at Damor-bhayya ka beta, or Pinky-didi ki ladki”.  You have scored only 88-percent marks, while the others have scored 98-percent. They have not given tuition for their child, their life situation is too meager.  At the same, we give you full luxuries and amenities – If you are a parent like this, you are fully spoiling the life of your child!

It has been seen that insufficient marks in exams push students towards depression leading to even suicide in this cyber age. If your child gets high marks, that is great! But if the child doesn’t, don’t take away their self-confidence and dignity from them. Appreciate the effort, even if your child secures 2 marks more than the previous test. Tell them that they have ample room for inventiveness. This builds confidence in them.

Some parents feel pride that they have made their kid’s admission in prestigious and costly schools. Obtaining good education is a privilege of the children, and it is the obligation of the parents to train them accordingly. Parents ought to comprehend that the primary objective of the best instruction is to make capable and independent people and not qualify them for securing an occupation and earn money.

Parents should also keep in mind that every child is unique and special from the other. Each one has its own set of special talents and strengths. As the children are the most important in their life, parents must focus all their attention on them and do whatever they can to make sure that they do well as per their merit and potentials. Let the children opt for their own careers.

Cut-throat competition usually leads to depression among students and as a result, they fail to justify the expectations of their parents. The parents should take out more time to understand and encourage their kids instead of comparing them with peers and classmates. School can assure students that examination marks are not the only benchmark to decide their future. - askpcthomas@gmail.com

This article published in Metro Vaartha on 18.7.2020